Years after his death, many people owe so much to this great man who has transformed Buddhism into a new renaissance. The pianist, Torsten Reitz, is playing Bach for the man that has touched many, including those in the audience. Women and men are wearing traditional robes, and some are also well known Chinese monks. The man being celebrated is Master Jing Hui



At the memorial ceremony for Master Jing Hui, a Chinese monk tells about the responsibilities that come with being a Buddhist monk, such as to maintain the temple and spreading Buddhism. He notes it’s not to be used as a worldly escape. Master Jing Hui would understand the concept of modern living, and would break down the walls of Buddhist ideology and introduce a new set of principles to form a more balanced approach of modern-day Buddhism. This was in 1991 when Master Jing Hui created Zen in Daily Life.


The principles of Zen in Daily Life were in regards to being grateful for everything that is given to you, whether it’s appreciating every grain of rice, or being happy and present in the moment. Master Jing Hui’s other principles were helping the fellow man, and applying a calm and collected attitude to one’s life.

According to this video, and three years after his death, the integration of Buddhism was what Master Jing Hui was hoping for. His message would be spread throughout China.

But it would be in Germany where the message also gets through. In 2009, a Willigis Junger was anointed as a disciple of Master Jing Hui. Bernd Groschupp, from Western Germany, became an apprentice. Master Jing Hui’s main principle in his Zen life teachings is to be a human being, and that’s the most important thing. Whether one is a Buddhist, Catholic or any other religion, Master Jing Hui would always say to his apprentices and disciples, that ‘you are a human being’. Thought provoking stuff.

This video compasses the love and value of Master Jing Hui. What he achieved in the world through the philosophy of Buddhism is ground-breaking, especially at this point in time, where knowledge and technology are now key to everything in life. Information is power, but the belief of ‘doing good’ is the centre point of Master Jing Hui’s belief system. Where it began for him back in 1933, Master Jing Hui’s life has spanned two centuries and lived through many challenges that China has experienced since 1949. He trained as a student with the other great master Xu Yen and ordained as a Ch’an Buddhist monk at the Yen Men Temple in Guangdong province. This is the basis for what he would achieve many decades later.



The name Buddhism comes from the word ‘budhi’, which means ‘to wake up’. So basically, it is a philosophy of awakening. Buddhism is now 2500 years old. In the 1900’s, Buddhism was mainly an Asian philosophy, but it now has 300 million followers from all around the world, mainly Europe and America. Some say it is a philosophy and not a religion.

The word philosophy comes from two words, ‘Philo’ which means ‘love’ and ‘Sophia’, which means ‘wisdom’. So Buddhism is the awakening of love and wisdom. The knowing of all parts.

As Master Jing Hui trained in the Buddhist traditions of Ch’an, these are compatible with the essential teachings of Buddhism. Within the Buddhist tradition of Ch’an, there are four sentences:

“Do not set up words and sentences”

“Teach outside of tradition”

“Point directly to the mind”

“Perceive its true nature and attain Buddhahood”  

These sentences define the practice and purpose, essential spirit and basic requirements of the Ch’an Buddhist tradition through principle. Those who enter through principle understand all beings, whether enlightened or unenlightened, share the exact true nature.


Aside from Jing Hui’s Buddhism philosophy, Buddhism today offers many a way to deepen one’s spiritual experience, or overcome stress and anxiety. Our current fast pace, high-stress life is causing great harm to our body, mind, and spirit. That’s why many have taken an interest in Buddhism. It allows centeredness through meditation, and through the action of good deeds, including thoughts.  There are many forms of Buddhism in the world. As they say, there are 84,000 paths to enlightenment. In all those paths, there are two words that cover most, and that is forgiveness and gratitude. They are the centre of Dharma, the universal truth. Through meditation and journeys, one begins to be Zen-like. But as Master Jing Hui says, ‘We are a human being’. We may have spiritual yearnings, but we are still human. But trying to allow Zen to infiltrate our busy lives is where Ch’an Buddhism comes through. To be grateful with every mouthful you take. To help one another. To be centred. The new versions of Buddhism, with added Zen, is Mindfulness. It’s a concept of allowing one to be in the present moment. This is what Master Jing Hui alluded to. Mindfulness now has its own following. It’s now a buzz word of the mid twenty-teens. Something people are now practising more of.



Apparently Jesus Christ, as he was called, did have 15 years of mystery. Where did he go? To some scholars, he went to India and other parts of Asia. He apparently studied the teachings of Buddhism. He found many parts of the universal truth at that time. He then scurried back to Palestine and amassed those who would listen. He had a following. I’m not religious myself, but there are similar points in the bible that reflect a similar note of reference to Buddhism. It alludes to the idea of loving your neighbour and having forgiveness. Also, in Buddhism, reincarnation is a concept. In the edited versions of the Bible, they took out the reference of reincarnation. For what Jesus learnt in the Continent, the truth was written. In Buddhism, there are no actual written sentences. It was an oral tradition. But now with technology, it is again changing.

Fitting Into Your Genes?

The other day I was at a cafe. I was just observing the comings and goings of everyone. It was busy. A man decided to share my space, which I didn’t mind. He was reading a book. It was about the mind, and how to change oneself, including your genes. I asked him about it.

Apparently it takes the brain 21 days to begin a habit. It takes between 40 days to 6 months to create neuron pathways to allow the new habit to be set. This in turn changes the genes of the body.

Since birth, you have a myriad of genes from your birth mother and father. These genes are a blueprint of yourself. It includes previous bloodlines from ancestors. Your genes include your health, and its future. However, that can change.

My ancestors from my father’s side were gambling alcoholic smokers. In the late 20th century, and now, they still are. I myself, don’t smoke, drink or gamble. Well with the gambling, I do…but not too excessive. Over time, I have changed my genes, as I have adopted a lifestyle  that is much healthier and full of vibrancy and longevity. On my mother’s side is creativity (writing, acting, music), worry, doubt and nervousness. I am trying to remain centred and calm. I do have the creative streak though.

I was asking the man what he has learnt so far about the book he is reading. He commented with one word, “adopt”. I looked at him strangely.

Apparently, you can adopt new ideas, experiences into your life from other people you may look up to or respond well with. This can be a positive or negative experience. The mind  doesn’t question it, it just creates it. So that’s why thoughts and things do matter. If for 21 days, you decide to do  fitness training. The brain will create a habit. Now if you do it longer from 40 days to half a year, the pathways will create it, and program it. So waking up early for that run will be as natural as eating.

Back in biblical times, apparently fasting was common once a year to cleanse the body. It was put in place to also create virtue. The practice allowed the person to also quit something that is seen as ‘bad’. Currently, many religions use the same practice. It usually lasts for forty days, which is enough time for the brain to create neuron pathways. But there can be a delay for longer time of six months.

My point is, you have the power to change your life through new experiences. Your brain will create neuron pathways and programming. It can be wiped, and new programs can be added. Adopting from other people is not like wanting to be them, and live in their shoes, but see them as some sort of inspiration.

Maybe adopting Richard Branson’s mindset of business, or Oprah’s love of mindfulness and meditation, to Donald Trump, and his eccentric ideas to Real Estate and ‘you can do anything’ type mantra. Once you adopt whatever it is from someone else, and use it/do it for more than 40 days, your new pathways are created, and programmed. Which means your genes will change.

I am currently doing a forty day mindfulness challenge. By the 1st of January 2016, I will be creating change.  It’s already happening, and for the good. I feel more centred.


T xx


It’s a Women’s World…or is it?

Women. The word was created as ‘Womb’ + ‘Men’. Which means women have something special over men, and that’s a womb, where life begins. We wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for them. Yes, I know that sperm is required, but a woman is needed for that added touch to procreation. So with all this power, why are so many women all over the globe still suppressed, and in some cultures and countries, classed as ‘lower’ amongst the hierarchy?

There seems to be a double standard in society with women. They can not sweat, but can perspire, even if that. They can’t be seen liking sex, compared to men. If a guy has a lot of sex with different women, he is seen as a stud. If it was a woman, she would be seen as a slut. In some industries, women are not highly visible. However, there are some, like in publishing and finance, that are running the show.  devil-wears-prada-anne-hathaway-meryl-streep

Recently I was watching my two favourite television shows – Bewitched and Sex and The City. Bewitched was a show about a witch (with powers), who decides to do the normal housewife thing, which was a running theme on American TV from the 50s and into the mid 60s. Her husband, Darrin, wanted her to stop using her natural powers. He wanted her into normalcy and suppression. But she couldn’t resist a twitch or two. Even Elizabeth Montgomery, who played Samantha, wanted to freshen things up with another character called Cousin Serena, who she also played. Serena was the fun witch who I guess Samantha wanted to be, but knew it couldn’t fit with her current ideal life. However, she was still strong. Darrin really knew who had the power.


Sex and The City was a groundbreaking show, well for the US. It showed a woman can love and adore sex as much as a man could. When you look at the four main characters (Carrie, Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda), you see that it is about one actual woman. In every woman, there is a creative part, a sexual part, an intellectual part, and part that is optimistic. The show was an eye opener to the times of the late 90s. It showed women can have it all, but not necessarily at the same time.

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Women do have so many pressures. They have to raise a family, have a career, and still look ‘young’. One time, I knew this guy who worked for Channel Ten in Sydney. He worked in the Publicity & Marketing departments. He told me that the female news anchors (circa 2000) got more mail on how they looked and were presented, than the male news anchor at the time. Many people didn’t like said person’s hair, or they thought what she was wearing was awful, or too boring. The first female Prime Minister in Australia, Julia Gillard,  was even harassed through the media for how she looked and was presented, compared to the many male Prime Ministers before her.

When you look back on history (his story), which is even from a male perspective, you see the many issues and problems women went through. Women couldn’t even vote. However, on the 19th of September 1893, women in New Zealand were allowed to vote in parliamentary elections. This made New Zealand the first country in the world to do so. Australia followed in 1901. In 1918, the Parliament of the United Kingdom passed an act granting the vote to women over the age of 30 who were householders, the wives of householders, occupiers of property with an annual rent of £5, and graduates of British universities. In 1920, the United States allowed women to vote.alice3

In 1692, witchcraft came to Salem (Massachusetts). It was a time of high religious morals and  suppression, especially with sexuality. The witch hunts, which also spread to other areas of the US and into Europe, were based on fear and religious dogma. Actually religion is very much responsible for women’s suppression. Some churches still don’t allow women priests. The Catholic religion actually is quite suppressive with women. During sex, which has to be after marriage, the use of contraception is outlawed. Even if one was to get pregnant, but didn’t want the pregnancy, abortion is out. They think that life begins at conception. When I did anatomy physiology at College, I saw what happens from pre-conception all the way to 9 months later. For the first two months at least, the fetus is just a group of cells constructing something that looks quite alien like. Some esoteric people think that life (the soul) begins after the first trimester. It’s usually all about biology prior to that, as the body can reject the fetus.

So, we are in the 21st century. We are in the world of many opposites. But the one thing is that suppression isn’t healthy – for anyone. It can manifest into the physical. As everything is connected (mind, body, spirit), we have to honor women from their virtues to their wildness. Over the many centuries of persecution, guilt, and suppression, we have to question whether these are the reasons for many diseases, such as breast and ovarian cancers. Many Chinese Medicine practitioners know the connections between thought, feeling and the physical manifestation in the body.

But there is hope. There are many more empowered women out there. Are you one of them?

I Love to Laugh…

“The more I laugh
The more I fill with glee
And the more the glee
The more I’m a merrier me…”

– I Love To Laugh (Mary Poppins)

In the world of 24/7, we are constantly on the go. We are now doing things faster, working longer, and the virtue of patience is  out the door. We are in constant flight or fight response. Even our media is in constant fear factor, and society is brandishing us with rules to have no fun, as we may hurt ourselves. Some rules are needed, but others are just over the top. This is where humour and laughter can come in. Life shouldn’t be so serious, you don’t even get out alive. But while you are here, you mays well enjoy yourself.

The subconscious mind (80-95 percent of your mind) has no sense of humour.  Whatever you say to it, it will accept it as true and creates your life accordingly. For those who put yourselves down for whatever reason, the subconscious mind will act and follow. So change the angle, and just laugh. In humour, we can make the world a better place, where joy and laughter can infiltrate the seriousness of ourselves.

The Number Seven

Just a quick post today. Last night I was marveling about the beauty of the world I live in. I live near the ocean, and it is always amazing how much water there is covering the planet. I’m surprised it was called Earth and not Oceania. Anyway, I had the number 7 in my head. I was wondering what that had to do with the oceans and the seas. Well it got me thinking.  Here are five ways the Number 7 appears in our life.

  1. There are 7 seas.
  2. There are 7 days of the week.
  3. There are 7 systems of the Human Body
  4. There are 7 main Chakra Systems (energy centres)
  5. There are 7 colours of the rainbow.

So we are often ruled by the number 7.

Maybe there is some design in the world after all.

Whatever Happened to Happiness?

When I was a kid, everything was innocent and beautiful. The day before I left home (in 2000), all my mother said to me was, ‘You can do anything, just as long as you are happy’. Into my twenties, I tried to find this happiness that my mother mentioned. I wondered if happiness would be in the form of my job or would it be in my friendships, including partnerships. Would my happiness be in the form of daily physical fitness, or even many social occasions revolving around food. As I gathered many friends and acquaintances, and wondered what their happiness psychology was, I learnt that most of them were just living their lives, and not enjoying their lives. I asked myself, “Whatever Happened to Happiness?” Is “Happiness” really the Holy Grail of Life?

We are human beings. We are not perfect, even though we’d like to try. The experiences we are having are often created from our subconscious selves. So in the wake of having a human experience, we have to know that often things happen to us that seem unreasonable and often negative. Sadness and depression states can come into play. But Joy and Happiness can be part of the flip coin. There are five ideas I have that can create the Holy Grail of Happiness. I’m not saying that life is like The Brady Bunch, even the cast of that show had more behind the scenes dramas than anything filmed on screen. But what I am saying is that there can be a balance.

Looking For the Good Things

In everything that must be done, or has happened, there is an element of good in everything. Sometimes it isn’t known well after the event. Happiness is where you put your attention. If you see badness in the world, and often the media doesn’t help, then you will start to see badness in most things. But if you see beauty in the world, then the focus in view can be beautiful. A friend of mine has just divorced his wife. Well the divorce was the wife’s idea. My friend thought his life was over. But I advised him that he could reinvent himself. Madonna has done it for decades.

EnJoy Life

If you have a job that you don’t like, or something you are doing that you hate, do something for yourself. Start having some passion for something. Whether it be writing, singing, playing a musical instrument or running a marathon, happiness starts from doing something.

Living in the Moment 

Living in the moment isn’t as easy. We are often programmed to think in the future, and often in the past. We often worry too, and it is always carried into a future of presumption. Unless you have a valid intuitive thought and feeling, then go with it, but if the ‘worry’ is something that is just a general worry, then move your focus into a ‘centred’ state. You can do this by meditating or conducting some sense of physical exercise.

Be Responsible For You.

Responsibility is with you. You are the one in the drivers seat. Stop complaining about trivial things that don’t really matter. Many people create their characters unconsciously. Many are playing the ‘victim’ character, where they incessantly do the ‘poor me’ thing. No one really cares about how old you are or what car you haven’t got.

Don’t Compare

This is a hard one too. But the thing is, don’t compare yourself to others. I know it can be difficult. I used to do it alot. But well I don’t really want to live another person’s life, and I certainly don’t want to have their life, as you often don’t know what is lurking behind closed doors. I had a colleague who I thought was living the perfect life. She had the perfect car, house, family, and body. She had her own issues and problems. She had told me that she was just keeping up with what was expected. She was exercising obsessively, her husband was seeing her children’s teacher, and she was mortgaged to the hilt. Oh, and she had an an addiction to painkillers.

Happiness is a state of being that includes Joy and Gratitude. Life should be lived. If one was to live till 80, they have 700,800 hours of life. How would you spend yours?

T x

Have We Lost Our Connection?

The 12 Biggest Life Secrets Forgotten By Mankind

The more I ponder about life, the more I continue to come to one solid realisation: The biggest curse and predicament of modern Man is forgetfulness. Like a creeping malaise, forgetfulness has seeped through all of Man’s being and doing. Individually, collectively, historically or culturally, we are spellbound to forget.

We haven’t only forgot our past but also our place in the present and our responsibility of the future. On a personal level, our ego-based state of consciousness is on a mission to keep us in this state of forgetfulness – to break the link to our being as a whole and to the interconnected web of life and universal consciousness.

On a collective level, this forgetfulness is perpetuated and reinforced by social and cultural means – mainly by being tranced into a reality of unconscious consumerism, inauthentic lifestyles and a materialistic mindset.

Here is a list of what I believe we have forgotten, or more importantly, a list of things to remember:

1) We forgot our place in the natural world

In the last couple of hundred years we have detached ourselves from nature. We have exploited, ravaged, consumed and attempted to control nature to appease our greed driven by self-absorbed madness. We tried to distance ourselves from the natural circle of life. We forgot how to listen to and understand the natural rhythms and cycles of the earth – its signs and languages. We forgot to follow nature’s path and live in balance with it.

2) We forgot our connection to life and the cosmos

By detaching ourselves from nature, we forgot that we are deeply connected to it and to the cycles of the universe. Some tribes on the outskirts of ‘civilisation’, and who still follow ancestral ways, have preserved this connection with respect and reverence. We, on the other hand have instilled a sense of separateness which drove us out of balance and in dis-ease.  We forgot how all consciousness is interconnected and weaved into a delicate and beautiful dance.

3) We forgot our ancient wisdom

We forgot our ancestral wisdom. In the quest to gain scientific knowledge through the rationalization of our mind, we forgot the wisdom through the opening of our heart. We forgot the ancient stories and folk wisdom that was handed down from from seers and wise men of antiquity who lived in harmony with the universe.

4) We forgot our path and our dreams

By stirring away from our inner path we forgot to dream the dream of life. More importantly we forgot how to awake in that dream and see our true nature as co-creators of life – as the dreamers. We forgot that we have the power to weave dreams and use our power of intention to direct those dreams into manifestation.

5) We forgot our purpose

With too much chatter, noise and distraction in this dense reality we forgot what we came here to do. We forgot our purpose. We are caught in the mass trance of fabricated consensual reality. We lost sight of our authenticity, that inner spark that drives us towards our happiness and self-realization. We forgot that we are here to be realized as spiritual beings embodied in a physical form and embedded in a congenial universe.

6) We forgot that everything is Love

This is perhaps the deepest mystery of all that only some seers came to understand it as an all-embracing truth. That truth however is hidden somewhere deep inside of us. We knew it at some point but have lost touch with it. We forgot that everything is ultimately energy and consciousness and that love is the fundamental fabric of existence that runs through all energy and consciousness.

7) We forgot to Forgive

By being made to believe that we are separate and disconnected from the others and from everything else, we forgot to forgive. In its deepest sense forgiveness is the act of reminding ourselves that we are one with everyone and everything and that there is no victim or perpetrator. It’s just all of us together moving together in a dynamic web we call life.

8) We forgot to be Free

Remind yourself one thing everyday: You were made to be free.

We were born and raised in a ‘reality’ where freedom is only a concept. We were bound to the shackles of fear, misconceptions, false ideologies, material reward and held ransom to rules and laws laid down to safeguard the interest of the few. We were made to forget that we are free agents of change. We are free to be who we are without fear or guilt.

9) We forgot our real power

Living in fear has made us forget how powerful we are. We forgot the massive power of our will and intention to change our reality. We have been tranced into sleepwalking and following the ready made signs like automatons.

10) We forgot our lessons from history

If there is something that history has taught us is how fast we are at forgetting our lessons. Time and time again we keep on repeating the same mistakes, stuck in the same patterns of greed and self-destruction. We cannot be blamed individually for the mistakes done by humanity in the past but we are responsible as individuals to to remind ourselves of the past mistakes and pass it on to the collective psyche.

11) We forgot to be simple

Human life got more complex and complicated. We are seduced by the glitter of more and not by the power of less. We forgot to be simple and the meaning of simplicity. Life is simple really. Simplicity means discarding all the inessential stuff and ideas that clutter the view to our life purpose and the other truths we have forgotten.

12) We forgot to trust, believe and wonder

We lost our enchantment with the world. We forgot to be wondered by the miracle of life. We do not stand in awe at the majesty of it all anymore. Our skepticism and cynical view of the world has made us lose trust in ourselves and the magic of the universe. We forgot how to believe. This is perhaps the biggest tragedy of all. It weakened our spirit and impoverished our soul.

Hopefully we can remember to embrace our unity and reconnect with the simple wisdom of ancient cultures, because our world needs us to more than ever.  Let us remember we have held the secret to life all along.

About the Author: 

The Article was written by Gilbert Ross you can find him on FacebookTwitterGoogle+ and his blog Soulhiker and more importantly you can take his course at Udemy.

Friends With Benefits…The Twenty-First Century Relationship?

Since the new age of Grindr, Tinder, and the websites of RSVP and E-Harmony, there are now endless possibilities to find that one person to complete you. It may be for the night, or for many years. But finding that elusive relationship isn’t easy, especially when there are so many vying for attention.

I have three friends who are currently on the dating treadmill. One is a gay 40 something male, and two are straight females who are both in their late 30’s. They have been going on more dates now than in their 20’s. The dates seem to be like job interviews, where they are asked about their five year plan, and whether children and marriage may seem a likely possibility. Then there are some men who really want a relationship, but they really just want sex. It is a jungle out there. Meeting someone for the first time can be a daunting task, and like a job interview, you have only a certain amount of minutes to say what you really want to say to get another date, and only if interested.

For my gay male friend who is trying to mind someone, it’s like a needle in a gaystack. Many think that finding a boyfriend would be easier. Well it is if you just want sex. But for something more, it’s often a difficult road a head full of rejection. Many are lucky to find a guy who has everything they want, but others have a harder road, where they date guys that shouldn’t be dating.

One time, another male friend, a health enthusiast, went out on a date with a guy from Brisbane, where my friend lived at the time. The guy he was dating was, according to his profile, a fitness freak who loved the great outdoors. They met up, and later realised that the guy was not exactly a fitness freak, but someone who had aged quite heavily since his profile was shot, and instead of exercise, he had a penchant for ice. He then understood the quick ageing of the photo, which was taken two years earlier. He left the restaurant and vowed to never date online again.

So with many people dating, and looking for that special someone, I wonder if many can save the heartache and find a good friend who they can extend the friendship and become – ‘friends with benefits’? For those who are busy in their lives, and want no major commitment, such as marriage and babies, then friends with benefits could work for them. It could be a perfect life, where one has their career, great friends, and one to three times a week, they see their special friend. In the US, ‘friends with benefits’ is trending, where more people are now forgoing a committed relationship.

However, sometimes the ‘friend with benefits’ relationship can fizzle if the other person finds someone else. Other issues are the expectation of sex, or if the person wants to pop over for a deep and meaningful, especially when one is too tired. Rules and boundaries are to be set for these reasons. However, since both people are less invested in making it a permanent situation (ie. an actual relationship), think of it as a place to be sexual – to increase fantasy fulfillment, as there is already some comfort level already. Then if the ‘friends with benefits’ thing falters, you can go back to being just ‘friends’.

To Be or Not To Be…Is Marriage Equality the Answer?

Marriage is something that has been around for thousands of years. It was used for business purposes, where land was kept in the family. It was also used as a union between people for love and honor. Marriage has changed in many countries over the years, where it is no longer between the conventional ‘man and woman’. Gay and Lesbian people are now getting married in such countries as New Zealand, England, and of course, The Netherlands. But some, like Australia, are still behind the times in letting their gay and lesbian citizens have the equality that they deserve.

Back in the day, in ancient times, marriage was never about religion or a religious service. You weren’t married before ‘God’, and it was something that many cultures did for many reasons. In Ancient Greece and Rome, and in some regions of China, such as the Fujian province, same-sex unions of marriage were common. They never were looked at as something that was feared. However, when Christianity became the official religion of the Roman Empire in around 342 AD by Christian emperors Constantius II and Constans, all bets were off.

So for 1,673 years in the waiting, is marriage equality the answer?

In Australia, heterosexual de facto relationships have the same laws as heterosexual marriage, except married partners have immediate access to all relationship entitlements, protections and responsibilities. The de factos have to be together for two years to get the same benefits, as the law sees it as ‘more than friends’. This is now the same for same-sex couples since around 2010. So if a gay and lesbian couple are together for more than two years, why do they need to get married, when there are the same protections? A marriage certificate allows easy proof if challenged. This is important for same-sex couples just in case there is prejudice, and legal rights are denied.

However, Australia currently allows same-sex couples to enter civil unions in the Australian Capital Territory, Queensland, Tasmania, Victoria and New South Wales. The Federal Government recognises these state and territory civil unions for the purposes of federal entitlements. These civil union schemes are only open to residents of the particular state or territory which provides them. Some other countries, however, do recognise Australian civil unions, for example, the United Kingdom. The City of Melbourne and Yarra City Council in Victoria and the City of Sydney in New South Wales provide relationship declaration programs. So with all this declaration, why do we need to have ‘marriage’, when we can easily have a civil union that represents the love for one another?

I asked this question to many of my gay and lesbian friends. They said they wanted to be treated like the heterosexuals, where they can get married freely, and show their love to the world. I wondered why one would want to be like the heterosexuals (no offence), especially when divorce rates are still high, where the average marriage is between 5 to 7 years. But they still want marriage equality, as that is the only thing that creates some evenness with both groups. But does it?

When I came out in 1997, I was happy to be gay. I didn’t have to worry about having children or getting married. In my family, marriage was shotgun, due to silly religious rules of the 1970s. I saw marriage as something that is under law, and not ‘God’s Law’. But now the gays and lesbians the world over are having children and getting married wearing kaftans and reciting some special vows in Hawaii. I wonder why I am so confused at why they want to. I do love Hawaii though.

But saying that, I do want gay and lesbians to be given the choice to marry if they so choose. I honestly don’t think it changes their relationship, but it gives them hope that they can be happy when they divide everything 50/50 when they divorce. But that can be done already if they have been together for 2 or more years in a gay de facto relationship. I know, cynical me, but marriage equality isn’t really about marriage at all. It’s about the concept of what we do behind closed doors is normal and nothing special.

But who wants to be normal?

Food Glorious Food

Well it’s a Sunday morning, and I’m eating eggs on sourdough with mushrooms. I’m in a cafe observing people and hearing their conversations. The men are talking about their sporting triumphs, their aims of bench pressing 150kg, and their disliking of our Prime Minister – Tony Abbott. The women are talking about their annoying husbands, boyfriends, girlfriends, children, and whether they should have the breakfast muffin, as they apparently may have reached their caloric expenditure for the time being. The guys beside me question the bread, as they are going carb free. However they give a forensic analysis about their big Saturday night on the wine and spirits. I’m surprised they are here and not in bed. The question to ask, is how did we get obsessed over food?

Food to me is about fuel and enjoyment. I eat for health, but can often eat when bored. I also enjoy eating for fun. It brings people together. But it seems we are bombarded with messages regarding food, health and nutrition, that even the experts can’t agree on. But why is food being used to control. It goes back to body image and weight. The original idea of food, is to fuel the body for it’s daily processes and energy expenditure (I do like that word). The brain needs glucose and good quality fats, and so does the rest of the body. But the public seem to think that, ‘a moment on the lips, a lifetime on the hips‘. With this subconscious affirmation, it’s not a shock that some people would control their eating habits.

In one of the Royal houses in Vienna, Austria around the 18th Century, lived a Princess that had everything at her disposal. That even included the best doctors. The svelte Princess would take worm larvae. She would eat normally as to the time, and maintain figure for her costume. She would then, at an appropriate time, take the herb Wormwood to excrete the worms from out of her anus. Then she would repeat the action. The point is that body image and weight control isn’t new.

So around three hundred years later, we have so much food on offer, that we have now the trouble with obesity. There are many reasons, but the sedentary lifestyle is probably a factor, as well as the way food is now grown, sold, delivered, and made. Since the 1950s, food was quite basic. Available was meat, fruit and vegetables, wheat flour, milk, butter, cream, and sugar. But the people were quite active in their lifestyles. Then during the past sixty odd years or so, they started to use cancerous pesticides, flavours and additives from a science laboratory, and artificial sweeteners. Food now can be a science experiment that can play havoc on the human body. This is probably another reason for weight issues. The body has to work harder for the increase in toxicity.

Also, in the past twenty years, are the array of diets. There are so many diets now, that I can’t keep up. The new diet is the Paleo diet. It is based on the food that the ancient ancestors may have eaten, such as lean meat, nuts and berries. It is more of a lifestyle, than diet. There are other diets that consist of high protein, low fat, low carb, high protein and high fat, and don’t forget the blood type diets etc. There are so many messages out there, that no wonder people are still confused.

If I was to write a diet book, or a food philosophy book, it would be the 80/20 Principle. Like an iceberg, which most of it is underwater, or even the subconscious mind, which is between 80-90 percent of your mind,  food should be the same. Where 80-90 percent of the time you can eat as healthy as possible. If something so basic has a listing of 3000 ingredients, then don’t bother. But if the food is as close to its natural state, then enjoy it. Then on a particular day, you can eat (in moderation) something that is seen as ‘bad’. My 10 to 20 percent day is having a Magnum ice cream and fried chips (not at the same time). It balances things, and there are no problems with missing out on anything in life. If one was to restrict themselves a hundred percent of the time, then binge eating could result.

The human body requires fuel at certain moments through the day. Many people think that only eating a few times a day will make them slim or skinny. It does depend on their energy expenditure (that word again) and how they move. The body also needs a minimum requirement just to do its normal functions. But eating six times a day gives the body a general balance that doesn’t allow for sugar imbalances. But ti does depend on what you eat of course.

The times for eating are below –

6am – 8am: Breakfast

9am – 11am: Morning Tea

Noon – 2pm: Lunch

3pm – 5pm: Afternoon Tea

6pm – 8pm: Dinner

9pm – 11pm:  Light Bedtime Snack

This is a general guide.

Food should be enjoyed and free from guilt and shame. As they say, guilt and shame are like poisons for the body…and that could be worse than the food itself. Know that food is required for health and wellbeing, but it can also be used to (as I said before) get people together.