I Love to Laugh…

“The more I laugh
The more I fill with glee
And the more the glee
The more I’m a merrier me…”

– I Love To Laugh (Mary Poppins)

In the world of 24/7, we are constantly on the go. We are now doing things faster, working longer, and the virtue of patience is  out the door. We are in constant flight or fight response. Even our media is in constant fear factor, and society is brandishing us with rules to have no fun, as we may hurt ourselves. Some rules are needed, but others are just over the top. This is where humour and laughter can come in. Life shouldn’t be so serious, you don’t even get out alive. But while you are here, you mays well enjoy yourself.

The subconscious mind (80-95 percent of your mind) has no sense of humour.  Whatever you say to it, it will accept it as true and creates your life accordingly. For those who put yourselves down for whatever reason, the subconscious mind will act and follow. So change the angle, and just laugh. In humour, we can make the world a better place, where joy and laughter can infiltrate the seriousness of ourselves.

The Number Seven

Just a quick post today. Last night I was marveling about the beauty of the world I live in. I live near the ocean, and it is always amazing how much water there is covering the planet. I’m surprised it was called Earth and not Oceania. Anyway, I had the number 7 in my head. I was wondering what that had to do with the oceans and the seas. Well it got me thinking.  Here are five ways the Number 7 appears in our life.

  1. There are 7 seas.
  2. There are 7 days of the week.
  3. There are 7 systems of the Human Body
  4. There are 7 main Chakra Systems (energy centres)
  5. There are 7 colours of the rainbow.

So we are often ruled by the number 7.

Maybe there is some design in the world after all.

Whatever Happened to Happiness?

When I was a kid, everything was innocent and beautiful. The day before I left home (in 2000), all my mother said to me was, ‘You can do anything, just as long as you are happy’. Into my twenties, I tried to find this happiness that my mother mentioned. I wondered if happiness would be in the form of my job or would it be in my friendships, including partnerships. Would my happiness be in the form of daily physical fitness, or even many social occasions revolving around food. As I gathered many friends and acquaintances, and wondered what their happiness psychology was, I learnt that most of them were just living their lives, and not enjoying their lives. I asked myself, “Whatever Happened to Happiness?” Is “Happiness” really the Holy Grail of Life?

We are human beings. We are not perfect, even though we’d like to try. The experiences we are having are often created from our subconscious selves. So in the wake of having a human experience, we have to know that often things happen to us that seem unreasonable and often negative. Sadness and depression states can come into play. But Joy and Happiness can be part of the flip coin. There are five ideas I have that can create the Holy Grail of Happiness. I’m not saying that life is like The Brady Bunch, even the cast of that show had more behind the scenes dramas than anything filmed on screen. But what I am saying is that there can be a balance.

Looking For the Good Things

In everything that must be done, or has happened, there is an element of good in everything. Sometimes it isn’t known well after the event. Happiness is where you put your attention. If you see badness in the world, and often the media doesn’t help, then you will start to see badness in most things. But if you see beauty in the world, then the focus in view can be beautiful. A friend of mine has just divorced his wife. Well the divorce was the wife’s idea. My friend thought his life was over. But I advised him that he could reinvent himself. Madonna has done it for decades.

EnJoy Life

If you have a job that you don’t like, or something you are doing that you hate, do something for yourself. Start having some passion for something. Whether it be writing, singing, playing a musical instrument or running a marathon, happiness starts from doing something.

Living in the Moment 

Living in the moment isn’t as easy. We are often programmed to think in the future, and often in the past. We often worry too, and it is always carried into a future of presumption. Unless you have a valid intuitive thought and feeling, then go with it, but if the ‘worry’ is something that is just a general worry, then move your focus into a ‘centred’ state. You can do this by meditating or conducting some sense of physical exercise.

Be Responsible For You.

Responsibility is with you. You are the one in the drivers seat. Stop complaining about trivial things that don’t really matter. Many people create their characters unconsciously. Many are playing the ‘victim’ character, where they incessantly do the ‘poor me’ thing. No one really cares about how old you are or what car you haven’t got.

Don’t Compare

This is a hard one too. But the thing is, don’t compare yourself to others. I know it can be difficult. I used to do it alot. But well I don’t really want to live another person’s life, and I certainly don’t want to have their life, as you often don’t know what is lurking behind closed doors. I had a colleague who I thought was living the perfect life. She had the perfect car, house, family, and body. She had her own issues and problems. She had told me that she was just keeping up with what was expected. She was exercising obsessively, her husband was seeing her children’s teacher, and she was mortgaged to the hilt. Oh, and she had an an addiction to painkillers.

Happiness is a state of being that includes Joy and Gratitude. Life should be lived. If one was to live till 80, they have 700,800 hours of life. How would you spend yours?

T x

Have We Lost Our Connection?

The 12 Biggest Life Secrets Forgotten By Mankind

The more I ponder about life, the more I continue to come to one solid realisation: The biggest curse and predicament of modern Man is forgetfulness. Like a creeping malaise, forgetfulness has seeped through all of Man’s being and doing. Individually, collectively, historically or culturally, we are spellbound to forget.

We haven’t only forgot our past but also our place in the present and our responsibility of the future. On a personal level, our ego-based state of consciousness is on a mission to keep us in this state of forgetfulness – to break the link to our being as a whole and to the interconnected web of life and universal consciousness.

On a collective level, this forgetfulness is perpetuated and reinforced by social and cultural means – mainly by being tranced into a reality of unconscious consumerism, inauthentic lifestyles and a materialistic mindset.

Here is a list of what I believe we have forgotten, or more importantly, a list of things to remember:

1) We forgot our place in the natural world

In the last couple of hundred years we have detached ourselves from nature. We have exploited, ravaged, consumed and attempted to control nature to appease our greed driven by self-absorbed madness. We tried to distance ourselves from the natural circle of life. We forgot how to listen to and understand the natural rhythms and cycles of the earth – its signs and languages. We forgot to follow nature’s path and live in balance with it.

2) We forgot our connection to life and the cosmos

By detaching ourselves from nature, we forgot that we are deeply connected to it and to the cycles of the universe. Some tribes on the outskirts of ‘civilisation’, and who still follow ancestral ways, have preserved this connection with respect and reverence. We, on the other hand have instilled a sense of separateness which drove us out of balance and in dis-ease.  We forgot how all consciousness is interconnected and weaved into a delicate and beautiful dance.

3) We forgot our ancient wisdom

We forgot our ancestral wisdom. In the quest to gain scientific knowledge through the rationalization of our mind, we forgot the wisdom through the opening of our heart. We forgot the ancient stories and folk wisdom that was handed down from from seers and wise men of antiquity who lived in harmony with the universe.

4) We forgot our path and our dreams

By stirring away from our inner path we forgot to dream the dream of life. More importantly we forgot how to awake in that dream and see our true nature as co-creators of life – as the dreamers. We forgot that we have the power to weave dreams and use our power of intention to direct those dreams into manifestation.

5) We forgot our purpose

With too much chatter, noise and distraction in this dense reality we forgot what we came here to do. We forgot our purpose. We are caught in the mass trance of fabricated consensual reality. We lost sight of our authenticity, that inner spark that drives us towards our happiness and self-realization. We forgot that we are here to be realized as spiritual beings embodied in a physical form and embedded in a congenial universe.

6) We forgot that everything is Love

This is perhaps the deepest mystery of all that only some seers came to understand it as an all-embracing truth. That truth however is hidden somewhere deep inside of us. We knew it at some point but have lost touch with it. We forgot that everything is ultimately energy and consciousness and that love is the fundamental fabric of existence that runs through all energy and consciousness.

7) We forgot to Forgive

By being made to believe that we are separate and disconnected from the others and from everything else, we forgot to forgive. In its deepest sense forgiveness is the act of reminding ourselves that we are one with everyone and everything and that there is no victim or perpetrator. It’s just all of us together moving together in a dynamic web we call life.

8) We forgot to be Free

Remind yourself one thing everyday: You were made to be free.

We were born and raised in a ‘reality’ where freedom is only a concept. We were bound to the shackles of fear, misconceptions, false ideologies, material reward and held ransom to rules and laws laid down to safeguard the interest of the few. We were made to forget that we are free agents of change. We are free to be who we are without fear or guilt.

9) We forgot our real power

Living in fear has made us forget how powerful we are. We forgot the massive power of our will and intention to change our reality. We have been tranced into sleepwalking and following the ready made signs like automatons.

10) We forgot our lessons from history

If there is something that history has taught us is how fast we are at forgetting our lessons. Time and time again we keep on repeating the same mistakes, stuck in the same patterns of greed and self-destruction. We cannot be blamed individually for the mistakes done by humanity in the past but we are responsible as individuals to to remind ourselves of the past mistakes and pass it on to the collective psyche.

11) We forgot to be simple

Human life got more complex and complicated. We are seduced by the glitter of more and not by the power of less. We forgot to be simple and the meaning of simplicity. Life is simple really. Simplicity means discarding all the inessential stuff and ideas that clutter the view to our life purpose and the other truths we have forgotten.

12) We forgot to trust, believe and wonder

We lost our enchantment with the world. We forgot to be wondered by the miracle of life. We do not stand in awe at the majesty of it all anymore. Our skepticism and cynical view of the world has made us lose trust in ourselves and the magic of the universe. We forgot how to believe. This is perhaps the biggest tragedy of all. It weakened our spirit and impoverished our soul.

Hopefully we can remember to embrace our unity and reconnect with the simple wisdom of ancient cultures, because our world needs us to more than ever.  Let us remember we have held the secret to life all along.

About the Author: 

The Article was written by Gilbert Ross you can find him on FacebookTwitterGoogle+ and his blog Soulhiker and more importantly you can take his course at Udemy.

Friends With Benefits…The Twenty-First Century Relationship?

Since the new age of Grindr, Tinder, and the websites of RSVP and E-Harmony, there are now endless possibilities to find that one person to complete you. It may be for the night, or for many years. But finding that elusive relationship isn’t easy, especially when there are so many vying for attention.

I have three friends who are currently on the dating treadmill. One is a gay 40 something male, and two are straight females who are both in their late 30’s. They have been going on more dates now than in their 20’s. The dates seem to be like job interviews, where they are asked about their five year plan, and whether children and marriage may seem a likely possibility. Then there are some men who really want a relationship, but they really just want sex. It is a jungle out there. Meeting someone for the first time can be a daunting task, and like a job interview, you have only a certain amount of minutes to say what you really want to say to get another date, and only if interested.

For my gay male friend who is trying to mind someone, it’s like a needle in a gaystack. Many think that finding a boyfriend would be easier. Well it is if you just want sex. But for something more, it’s often a difficult road a head full of rejection. Many are lucky to find a guy who has everything they want, but others have a harder road, where they date guys that shouldn’t be dating.

One time, another male friend, a health enthusiast, went out on a date with a guy from Brisbane, where my friend lived at the time. The guy he was dating was, according to his profile, a fitness freak who loved the great outdoors. They met up, and later realised that the guy was not exactly a fitness freak, but someone who had aged quite heavily since his profile was shot, and instead of exercise, he had a penchant for ice. He then understood the quick ageing of the photo, which was taken two years earlier. He left the restaurant and vowed to never date online again.

So with many people dating, and looking for that special someone, I wonder if many can save the heartache and find a good friend who they can extend the friendship and become – ‘friends with benefits’? For those who are busy in their lives, and want no major commitment, such as marriage and babies, then friends with benefits could work for them. It could be a perfect life, where one has their career, great friends, and one to three times a week, they see their special friend. In the US, ‘friends with benefits’ is trending, where more people are now forgoing a committed relationship.

However, sometimes the ‘friend with benefits’ relationship can fizzle if the other person finds someone else. Other issues are the expectation of sex, or if the person wants to pop over for a deep and meaningful, especially when one is too tired. Rules and boundaries are to be set for these reasons. However, since both people are less invested in making it a permanent situation (ie. an actual relationship), think of it as a place to be sexual – to increase fantasy fulfillment, as there is already some comfort level already. Then if the ‘friends with benefits’ thing falters, you can go back to being just ‘friends’.

To Be or Not To Be…Is Marriage Equality the Answer?

Marriage is something that has been around for thousands of years. It was used for business purposes, where land was kept in the family. It was also used as a union between people for love and honor. Marriage has changed in many countries over the years, where it is no longer between the conventional ‘man and woman’. Gay and Lesbian people are now getting married in such countries as New Zealand, England, and of course, The Netherlands. But some, like Australia, are still behind the times in letting their gay and lesbian citizens have the equality that they deserve.

Back in the day, in ancient times, marriage was never about religion or a religious service. You weren’t married before ‘God’, and it was something that many cultures did for many reasons. In Ancient Greece and Rome, and in some regions of China, such as the Fujian province, same-sex unions of marriage were common. They never were looked at as something that was feared. However, when Christianity became the official religion of the Roman Empire in around 342 AD by Christian emperors Constantius II and Constans, all bets were off.

So for 1,673 years in the waiting, is marriage equality the answer?

In Australia, heterosexual de facto relationships have the same laws as heterosexual marriage, except married partners have immediate access to all relationship entitlements, protections and responsibilities. The de factos have to be together for two years to get the same benefits, as the law sees it as ‘more than friends’. This is now the same for same-sex couples since around 2010. So if a gay and lesbian couple are together for more than two years, why do they need to get married, when there are the same protections? A marriage certificate allows easy proof if challenged. This is important for same-sex couples just in case there is prejudice, and legal rights are denied.

However, Australia currently allows same-sex couples to enter civil unions in the Australian Capital Territory, Queensland, Tasmania, Victoria and New South Wales. The Federal Government recognises these state and territory civil unions for the purposes of federal entitlements. These civil union schemes are only open to residents of the particular state or territory which provides them. Some other countries, however, do recognise Australian civil unions, for example, the United Kingdom. The City of Melbourne and Yarra City Council in Victoria and the City of Sydney in New South Wales provide relationship declaration programs. So with all this declaration, why do we need to have ‘marriage’, when we can easily have a civil union that represents the love for one another?

I asked this question to many of my gay and lesbian friends. They said they wanted to be treated like the heterosexuals, where they can get married freely, and show their love to the world. I wondered why one would want to be like the heterosexuals (no offence), especially when divorce rates are still high, where the average marriage is between 5 to 7 years. But they still want marriage equality, as that is the only thing that creates some evenness with both groups. But does it?

When I came out in 1997, I was happy to be gay. I didn’t have to worry about having children or getting married. In my family, marriage was shotgun, due to silly religious rules of the 1970s. I saw marriage as something that is under law, and not ‘God’s Law’. But now the gays and lesbians the world over are having children and getting married wearing kaftans and reciting some special vows in Hawaii. I wonder why I am so confused at why they want to. I do love Hawaii though.

But saying that, I do want gay and lesbians to be given the choice to marry if they so choose. I honestly don’t think it changes their relationship, but it gives them hope that they can be happy when they divide everything 50/50 when they divorce. But that can be done already if they have been together for 2 or more years in a gay de facto relationship. I know, cynical me, but marriage equality isn’t really about marriage at all. It’s about the concept of what we do behind closed doors is normal and nothing special.

But who wants to be normal?

Food Glorious Food

Well it’s a Sunday morning, and I’m eating eggs on sourdough with mushrooms. I’m in a cafe observing people and hearing their conversations. The men are talking about their sporting triumphs, their aims of bench pressing 150kg, and their disliking of our Prime Minister – Tony Abbott. The women are talking about their annoying husbands, boyfriends, girlfriends, children, and whether they should have the breakfast muffin, as they apparently may have reached their caloric expenditure for the time being. The guys beside me question the bread, as they are going carb free. However they give a forensic analysis about their big Saturday night on the wine and spirits. I’m surprised they are here and not in bed. The question to ask, is how did we get obsessed over food?

Food to me is about fuel and enjoyment. I eat for health, but can often eat when bored. I also enjoy eating for fun. It brings people together. But it seems we are bombarded with messages regarding food, health and nutrition, that even the experts can’t agree on. But why is food being used to control. It goes back to body image and weight. The original idea of food, is to fuel the body for it’s daily processes and energy expenditure (I do like that word). The brain needs glucose and good quality fats, and so does the rest of the body. But the public seem to think that, ‘a moment on the lips, a lifetime on the hips‘. With this subconscious affirmation, it’s not a shock that some people would control their eating habits.

In one of the Royal houses in Vienna, Austria around the 18th Century, lived a Princess that had everything at her disposal. That even included the best doctors. The svelte Princess would take worm larvae. She would eat normally as to the time, and maintain figure for her costume. She would then, at an appropriate time, take the herb Wormwood to excrete the worms from out of her anus. Then she would repeat the action. The point is that body image and weight control isn’t new.

So around three hundred years later, we have so much food on offer, that we have now the trouble with obesity. There are many reasons, but the sedentary lifestyle is probably a factor, as well as the way food is now grown, sold, delivered, and made. Since the 1950s, food was quite basic. Available was meat, fruit and vegetables, wheat flour, milk, butter, cream, and sugar. But the people were quite active in their lifestyles. Then during the past sixty odd years or so, they started to use cancerous pesticides, flavours and additives from a science laboratory, and artificial sweeteners. Food now can be a science experiment that can play havoc on the human body. This is probably another reason for weight issues. The body has to work harder for the increase in toxicity.

Also, in the past twenty years, are the array of diets. There are so many diets now, that I can’t keep up. The new diet is the Paleo diet. It is based on the food that the ancient ancestors may have eaten, such as lean meat, nuts and berries. It is more of a lifestyle, than diet. There are other diets that consist of high protein, low fat, low carb, high protein and high fat, and don’t forget the blood type diets etc. There are so many messages out there, that no wonder people are still confused.

If I was to write a diet book, or a food philosophy book, it would be the 80/20 Principle. Like an iceberg, which most of it is underwater, or even the subconscious mind, which is between 80-90 percent of your mind,  food should be the same. Where 80-90 percent of the time you can eat as healthy as possible. If something so basic has a listing of 3000 ingredients, then don’t bother. But if the food is as close to its natural state, then enjoy it. Then on a particular day, you can eat (in moderation) something that is seen as ‘bad’. My 10 to 20 percent day is having a Magnum ice cream and fried chips (not at the same time). It balances things, and there are no problems with missing out on anything in life. If one was to restrict themselves a hundred percent of the time, then binge eating could result.

The human body requires fuel at certain moments through the day. Many people think that only eating a few times a day will make them slim or skinny. It does depend on their energy expenditure (that word again) and how they move. The body also needs a minimum requirement just to do its normal functions. But eating six times a day gives the body a general balance that doesn’t allow for sugar imbalances. But ti does depend on what you eat of course.

The times for eating are below –

6am – 8am: Breakfast

9am – 11am: Morning Tea

Noon – 2pm: Lunch

3pm – 5pm: Afternoon Tea

6pm – 8pm: Dinner

9pm – 11pm:  Light Bedtime Snack

This is a general guide.

Food should be enjoyed and free from guilt and shame. As they say, guilt and shame are like poisons for the body…and that could be worse than the food itself. Know that food is required for health and wellbeing, but it can also be used to (as I said before) get people together.


Is Monogamy a type of Wood?

Last week, a friend called me wanting to see him over dinner. This friend is hard to see on normal occasions, but I was happy to oblige, as I have not seen him for many weeks. He has been dating this guy for many months. The guy was younger, and more amorous in the bedroom. Anyway I went and met my friend for dinner in the gay ghetto of Darlinghurst. He seemed upset and emotional. I was wondering what the problem was, especially as the younger boyfriend was taking up a lot of his time. So the announcement came, the young guy was seeing two other men at the same time. Not just as shags, but as actual boyfriends.

I was shocked. How could the young guy find the time, and still stay over night many times at my friends place. Like everything in life, there are always signs. I asked my friend if he saw any of them, and he said ‘No’. But the more he thought about it the more he noticed there were.

The signs he said were;

* The battery on his phone would always run out at an interesting time, so no communication could take place.

* He would get very upset if he had to go to a certain place (in Oxford Street, Sydney).

*The young guy would want to be monogamous, and hope that there will be no reason to see other men (obviously a psychological plan)

* Strange messages would appear on his phone.

One night, my friend said, that the young guy was asleep, he did have a hunch that something wasn’t Kosher. He looked at his phone, which was unlocked, and looked at all the text messages. That’s when he realised he was in competition with two others, and others just for sex.

This case isn’t just to do with men, gay or straight, but women too.

Here is a story:

A few years ago, I was working with someone who was happily married with this woman, who he met on speed dating, when it was a thing. They later fell in love and lived together by the water in Kirribilli, Sydney. For work, the girlfriend was working for a multinational finance company. She would pop off here and there for days or weeks. Whilst she was in Melbourne for work, he decided to go to Newcastle for the weekend to see some friends. He enjoyed the accommodations of the newly opened Crowne Plaza, and met his friends nearby. One morning, at breakfast, he noticed what looked to be his girlfriend. He was doing double glances. He secretly hid near a wall in the restaurant. He noticed a man with her. They both looked pretty smitten together. They were holding hands across the table. He was now sure it was her. 

He didn’t do anything. That is until he got out his phone, and called his girlfriend. She answered, and wondered how he was was. He wondered the same. She was saying how good Melbourne was, and how the food is divine. He told her that he was in Newcastle just for the weekend, as it was a quick thought thing. She changed her tone, and was a bit short with him on not telling her his movements whilst she was away on business.

Anyway, he decided to go to Reception and ask for the key to her room. Even though he was staying at the hotel himself, the Reception people didn’t recognise him, as it was new staff starting. He advised his girlfriend was staying. He hoped that the room would be under her name, which it was. He got the key, and looked inside. He wondered if the guy was staying with her, or if she was alone. He lied on the double bed, and waited. 

Twenty mins later, she showed up with the man that he saw earlier. That moment was when the relationship ended for both of them. 

The story goes, the girlfriend was seeing the guy for months, and would regularly go to Newcastle for ‘catch ups’. She said she still had love and affection, but couldn’t be monogamous. 

Does monogamy work, or is it a piece of wood?

There are many stories in every culture and creed of affairs, mistresses, fuck buddies and the like. Are humans really able to be with that one person for a certain time?

My grandfather once had five mistresses on the side at one time. He was a very busy man. My grandmother knew, and was hurt at first, but got used to it. She may have had someone too. Who knows.

With many people looking for love, I often see the issues that come from looking for that one person. In my book, I see Love and Sex as separate. I am sure it can be intertwined, but generally it is separate. Is that why we are confused and try and hide our extra curricular activities. If we were honest, we could have love, and perhaps one night a week or a month, we can have a ‘hall pass’. Some couples actually attend Swinging parties, or other events such as threesomes. Others may go on the internet and look at Porn.

We hear stories from the world of media about people cheating. People that cheat may be doing a natural thing. It’s such a grey area on what cheating really represents. Some say why cheat when you are in love with the one you’re with. But that’s the problem, the love may be there, but they may just want to try a different flavour. I am not saying cheating is right. However, look at earlier cultures of the Greeks and Romans. They used to be with their wives, but would also have urges for men too. It was normal back then. Now, we have swept it under the carpet.

But why do people cheat? There are different circumstances on why. Maybe the sex has dwindled or they are just amourous and need sex more regularly than their partners may want. Maybe they are into both sexes, and have urges for the one they are not with most of the time. There are many reasons why. I do believe Monogamy should be a type of Wood, and not some rule to live by, as most of us have ignored it at one point or another.

Exercise and its Merits

Well last week I was over hearing a group of people discussing their exercise routines and why they were not ‘losing any weight’. They were mainly female. They were wondering why their scales didn’t budge, but their clothes did seem different on them. I was fascinated in their conversations. I was wondering whether we have looked at exercise all wrong. Many people seem to think exercise equates to weight loss or muscle gain, but there is a lot more to it.

Exercise, and any other movement of any kind, gets the body moving. There are seven body systems, and they all work together. When the body moves, the blood flows to all areas of the body. The heart pumps, which creates the blood to flow. The digestive organs do their thing, which leads to better regularity. This is why people who do a lot of movement (say running, walking, skipping, boxing, swimming) have better bowel movements. Everything flows better with exercise.

Sweating is also beneficial when it comes to movement, as it cleanses the skin and gets the body to remove any toxicity through the pores which it can’t do through the bowels. Induced sweating can do the same thing, this often through saunas and steam rooms. I find infrared saunas fantastic, as you feel after the 40 minute session that you have ran 40 minutes non stop. This weekly in-conjunction with the exercise routine can do the body wonders.

The human body was designed for moving. It is upsetting that we have now mastered the art of sitting. Sitting excessively can reduce the flow of the body, and can cause it to become lethargic and increase inflammation over time. There are many business that now have standing desks and also normal desks, but with medicine balls, so the body’s core can get a slight workout during the day.

We have now understood the impacts the body has on 21st century living. Where I live, there are 9 gyms in the vicinity, and that includes some yoga studios. I guess we have the fittest people in the Sydney metro area. But people do their workouts thinking it will give them more muscular bodies, or desired weight loss. But when you change the way how exercise can really help you from beyond the current ideas, you can face the world easily. Exercise increases endorphins in the Brain making you happier and able to think clearly. People can get their best ideas from long walks to running workouts and the like. It puts you in the moment. I have on many occasions been a bit down, but once I get my walking shoes on, and walk for a particular time along the coast, or hiking through the bush, I become happier and the world seems much more positive.

So exercise and movement is not just for weight loss and muscle gains, but it can lead to clear and healthy skin, better digestion, healthier outlook on life, and happiness.


It’s all a Game, but no one really Wins

The Ego is a funny thing. Well not so funny. Sometimes it can be fun and enjoyable, hard and complicated, and at times,  sadistic and cruel. The Ego is playing a game with you. Actually You are playing a game with the entire world.

Your ego loves playing the game. It loves comparing itself to others to see who is winning. To see who has the most money. To see who has the most power. To see who is the best. To see who is happier. To see who is making the most out of their life.

Every person you meet your ego is sizing them up. Deciding who is ahead in the game. But here is the catch. We may make the comparisons but we constantly feel we are losing. We know there is something out there we don’t have. We may not even know what it is. We just have that empty feeling that tells us it is missing.

Guess what?

That empty feeling isn’t going to go away. If we look out into the world to fill the void, the empty space may actually get bigger and bigger. We are chasing something we can never catch. We are playing a game in which there can be no winner. Yet we keep playing the game and sometimes the game flies completely out of our control.

Your mind has over 50,000 thoughts a day. Are you going to tell me you are in control of all those thoughts? Do you even know what those thoughts are? Most are repetitive and useless. The same thoughts that you have over and over every
day, but accomplish nothing. Most just bring worry and misery. Even though you aren’t consciously aware of all the thoughts you know they are there.

You can feel them. There is that underlying current of unease that is in all of us. Sometimes we feel it more intensely. Sometimes in moments of intense anger or grief it can overwhelm us. But even in moments of relative peace we can still feel it lurking in the background. The game keeps us searching, comparing and fighting for relief but there is none. Perhaps brief flashes of liberation, but they are always fleeting.

So is there anything we can do?  Yes! Quit playing the game. Surrender. Just give up. Decide you are not going to play the
game anymore. Don’t get me wrong. I am not saying give up on life. I am saying end the game. Now watch what happens in your life.

Turn your life over to your higher self. Trust in the part of you that is infinite. A part of you that, believe it or not, is omnipotent – all knowing. Why in the word would you want to limit yourself to your finite mind? A mind so cluttered and full of lies and deceit
that it really can’t even see the world for what it truly is.

Accept that you are more than this jumbled mess of thoughts and emotions, walking sometimes aimlessly in a trap of flesh and bone. Realize that you have the ability to access infinite possibilities. Understand there is no need for competition, because everyone has this ability. Everyone is pure unlimited potential. You can coordinate the universe so precise that anything you desire is possible. How? Embrace the unknown and uncertainty. Know that everything you could ever want is
yours for the taking. Just don’t get caught up in the “how” and “why” anymore. Find the joy in yourself. What makes you feel good? Let that feeling guide you. If you are having fun in what you are doing, everything else will take care of itself.